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Podcast 44: Isolation Struggles with Covid from a College Students Perspective

How Emotional Support Animals (ESA) and Psychiatric Service Dogs (PSD) can help the struggle of Loneliness and add more meaning and Purpose during Isolation

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The summary of today show is a very timely subject of how to cope with the struggles of isolation in a the times of the Pandemic.

Interview with my guest Nicole Cimmarusti who is a college student at UC Davis in California studying Psychology. She interviews Joanne on how Covid 19 has impacted people in general and client with Emotional Support Animals  (ESAs) and Psychiatric Service Dogs (PSD).  

Nicole started off by sharing why she wants to do her paper on emotional support animals and how they can help with the feelings of Isolation through the pandemic and ways to cope better.

We discussed working with ESAs and PSDs and how it can help with anxiety to fly. Joanne works with clients who need an Emotional Support Animals (ESA) or a Psychiatric Service Dog. (PSD) and the difference between them.

ESAs need to help with a daily functioning, like sleep, concentration or socializing and the law is now only for housing and it is under the FHA.  

The law for PSD is under the Americas with Disabilities Act (ADA) and they can go anywhere with the person.  The dog needs to be “trained” to do a task to help them with their psychological diagnosis.

Suggestions to help with isolations for building daily habits to not let drama take your focus off your goals and to focus forward on solutions, instead of focusing on problems.

How to get a Psychiatric Service Dog, and how to get a Emotional Support Animal.  Find a dog at a shelter that matches your energy level and emotional needs to calm or comfort you or helps by noticing your anxiety is rising that come over and calms your anxiety or depression. Dogs can help with isolation during the pandemics.

Connecting with others is really important for dealing with isolation, reach out in other in any way that will.

Suicides have increased because of isolation call the hot line 1800-273-8255. Reach out to a professional. There is a current Shadow Pandemic with mental health issues rising.

Campus resources for counseling. But less access because of demand. Interns are not allowed to do in-person sessions because of Covid.

Some of the interview questions she asked and we explored in the podcast.

  • How has the pandemic affected the need for emotional support animals?
  • What’s the difference between an ESA and PSD and who qualifies?
  • How has the pandemic affected your business of certifying with emotional support animals?
  • More personally, how have you been coping with the isolation of the pandemic and what would you recommend for people struggling?

Nicole and Joanne described the affect of isolation and losses from the Pandemic.

This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911. Remember to Share the Love.

Or check out other videos of the podcast at AnxietySimplified.net

Or go to https://esapros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere to give you the support you need.

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Podcast 41: 4 Strategies to Use to Help your Teen Struggling with Depression to Develop Skills

Teen with Increasing Severe Depression that need our help

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4 Strategies you Can Use to Help your Teen struggling with Depression or Your Teens Friends to develop skills to deal with these imposing emotions.

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW discusses a new study showing that a scary number of our teens that are struggling and need our Help even when many of them don’t realize it.

Summary of Todays show: Our teens are getting more overwhelmed than we may be aware of. I will share 4 strategies for what you can do and to understand why this may be happening and how to help them.

  1. The Signs that our teens are struggle to cope
  2. The stressors with certain groups that are worse
  3. 3 factors that come together to create a sense of hopelessness and despair.
  4. How we can help- 4 key strategies you can use today that will help.
  5. How we can help by understanding yours and your child’s attachment style.

Please hear from a 30 year MH professional. We are having a MH crisis with our Children. 

I heard a statistic that scared me so much and it should scare you too. 

From the organization Mental health America that did an online study 1.5 million 11-17 students. The teens took a depression screening test starting in Sept. 2020, so this is recent data and 37 % of the 11-17 yo reported were having suicidal thoughts in the last 7 of 14 days when they took the survey. 37 %-50% of these teens, when you add for other groups with higher rates, were considering or had thoughts taking their life. Or examining or weighing options.  This doesn’t mean they will but, it is considered having ideations about it and the next question would be, do they have a plan to figure out how seriously they are thinking about his. 

But, we all need to take it as serious as a heart attack, this is part of a shadow pandemic that is affecting our kids directly.

This test is one of the 9 criteria I used to diagnosis depression with my clients.  We use a test called PHQ-9.  This is one of the 9 questions, on the depression screen test.  So this is a reliable and credible test. Done on line, with no adults watching or listening, may actually give us a better understanding of what our kids are thinking and feeling at this age.

Many times teens are not very communicative anyway,  with us as parents or if asked they may not even understand themselves.   or know that they are depressed or that they THAT unhappy.  If feels normal to them.  This is why they can do impulsive things and do harm to themselves. Number one cause of death in teens is accidents.  

Signs to look for in your kids are changes in their behaviors, not interested in doing things that they previously had interest in, physical signs in their bodes, the way they carry themselves, slumped shoulders, no energy, or more negative talk. Hopelessness is one of the biggest keys to suicide, nothing to live for. 

Some kid verbalize that they have thoughts to harm themselves, but some don’t, so don’t wait for that.

A parent told me yesterday, those were the exact signs she was seeing in her son.  They figured out,  that he was feeling he had no purpose because he didn’t have his team sport that he loved and lived for.  She immediately figured out where a similar team was playing and weighed the risks of Covid and decided his mental health was more important.  These are trying times for all of us.

There are so many compounding factors that I am sure you are aware of as a parent that you are dealing with that, we may not be able to help our children cope better, if you don’t how to cope yourself.   As we all know from personal experience, human relationships can deeply affect us, emotionally; they can either enrich or complicate our lives.

Not surprisingly, the roots of our anxiety may lie largely in our childhood: Our early childhood experiences shape our later relationships, romantic and otherwise.

We humans are very social creatures; other people are important to us.

You can learn skills of what to do. This is not something to worry about this is something to take action to get involved, ON.   You can ask for help at school, at church or from a counselor.

BUT, we have to get involved somehow, in what the teens like, get into THEIR world, what they want to do.  Because they are in the phase of development, everything is able them.  And everything is pronounced or exaggerated in their minds, I think because of hormone and this stage that stage is about finding their own identity and in high school finding their social identity and how they belong. You do remember how hard this was a teenager?  DON’T you?

Adolescents may offer useful lessons for adults:

So, kids are watching you and learning from the adults behaviors, so healthy relationship in the family can make a huge difference.

Even if they don’t want our help or think we are totally stupid and we don’t know anything, they still need us and are Listening to you and your advise, but, they may not show it.  Keep talking to them, they are listening and taking in everything.  But, you will never know it for years.

Even having some hope on the horizon with vaccines, there still have been over 550,000 death that are affecting our families. 

I see that 1 of these deaths from covid affects at least 10 other people, like being a coworkers, or as a friend or a friend of the family, or a spouse, or a spouse, grandparent or someone associated with the family, that they know and may need our help to assist the family out with this grief,  or to help the  family member, to get through the day, or through the day at work to keep everything together for the rest of the family’s sake financially.  If my calculations are true that is 5 million people affected, with losses, just this year from covid, more or less the other issues compounding this.

The report that I am sharing, is in a link for you to see, it is staggering, and we need to be shouting this from the roof tops.  But, unfortunately it is really hard to hear and for some it is just too much.

I will share these new statistics from Mental Health America that 10 % of youth in America have severe depression, where these thoughts of self-harm are found in 1 out of 10 of our children. Look around you. This may be your child’s friend. The highest rates are among youth who Identify as more than one race at 12 % and 60% DO NOT RECEIVE ANY MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT.

We as an American society have managed to classify a set of symptoms of feeling overwhelmed, tired, poor concentration, feeling like a failure into classification to feel ashamed of, instead of looking at it as we need to teach life skills on how to manage or cope with these feelings. 

Without ever being taught these coping or life skills and expected to know what to do with them??.  

And if we as the parent are avoiding seeing the signs of overwhelm in our kids, because we don’t know how to manage them ourselves. What are we to do?  There are things that you can do.  

We have 50-90,000 thoughts per day that can go towards our health and happiness or away from it into depression, or thinking we are a failure or worthless and things are hopeless.

To compound this issue is that children don’t’ even start to have the cognitive abilities… the thinking skills, to understand how to figure out how to deal with their emotions until they are age 12-25.  That part of their brain is still developing.  The thinking/ cognitive or higher brain skills of how to figure out how deal with feelings of failure, or self-worth are continuing to develop until they are 25 years old. 

Notice a male can’t rent a car until they are 25.  Why? They haven’t developed the emotional and cognitive skills to be trusted to rent a car and be responsible for it.  They need our help.

Suicide in teens is the second leading cause of death only to accidents, in the US.

Guns in the home increase the possibility of both violence and suicide. According to the Everytownresearch.com

There are 3 factors that come together to create a sense of hopelessness and despair.

The 3 risk factors are:

1.Current life stressors, prolonged stress, (financial, emotionally stress like bullying, harassment) their attitude towards it and the support they receive are part of what will save them or not.  

2 Historical risks, previous suicide attempts, family history of depression or suicides, childhood abuse, neglect or traumas of any kind, family losses, physical head trauma)

3.Lethal means of harm at their disposal including firearms.

They are learning how to cope from you the parent or their peers. Which do you want them to learn from ?  If you as a parent and don’t understand how to manage your emotions, then, buy a book, listen to free podcasts, like mine at Anxiety Simplified on all major platforms, pay a professional counselor and learn the skills.  They can be learned like any other skill.

I truly believe that this is a bigger issue with teens, I think it is finding meaning of life and its purpose and connecting to it.  I think that we don’t often give it the time it deserves as a philosophic way to look at life until college years.  But, I see the real message is a deeper need to connect with something bigger than them, something with more depth than social media, social comparisons. 

Here are 4 things you can do:

1.  Connect with Nature with your kid, have them join a team, connect with a church or social group that is active

2.  Teens are in a development time of separation from their parents and trying to find themselves and their purpose and meaning. The more experience they have in different areas, the quicker they know what they don’t like, to know what they do like.  Let them safely experiment and if you can be the chaperone and just witness them from afar, you will begin to see you kids strengths to encourage them to move in that direction.

3. Get a dog, or an animal in the home and can bring purpose and meaning and responsibility to something other than themselves. Or go to https://esapros.com for an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go with you everywhere to give you the support you need.

4.  Volunteer

Make this and your children a priority.  They will be gone before you know what happened.  These are very important times. Figure out how to be their support system, even if they say they don’t want you too.  Do something with them they like to do, even if you don’t.  Just like in any relationship there is give and take and right now it is give give give with a teens.

We are left to figure it out ourselves and pay for it ourselves.  I do feel like it is one of the best investments in yourself and your family that you can ever make.  Get the life skills to understand how to manage your emotions and your kids will follow your example.

You can download this report here: Download The Report

The article referenced: The State of Mental Health in America

 This is podcast is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.

Remember to practice the skills we shared today to feel more joys in your life.

You can contact us at anxietysimplified.net or find out more how to get an Emotional Support animal for housing or a Certified Psychiatric Service dog to go anywhere with to feel the calm. Bye for now. Remember to Share the Love.

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Podcast 22: 10 Reasons We Need to Smile

Smiling Faces releases endorphins

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In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW discusses 10 Reasons We Need to Smile- Make A Conscious effort to smile every day.

Summary of today Podcast: 

  1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive
  2. Smiling Relieves Stress
  3. Smiling Elevates Our Mood
  4. Smiling Is Contagious
  5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
  6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
  7. Smiling Makes Us Feel Good
  8. Smiling Makes Us appear more Attractive.
  9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
  10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

       Question for today is? Can Smiling make me feel better?

I love to Smile-I do this all the time and I feel I get positive response back from people.  Especially babies.  It is a fun test to play with. Smile at a baby at the supermarket and see their response.

But the pandemic has required wearing a mask and it covers over smiles.  So what can we do?  Make an experiment and see if people respond to you under your mask smiling?  Smile anyways under the mask and send them good thought and vibrations.  Smiling Makes Us Feel Good.

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural painkillers, and serotonin. Together these three neurotransmitters make us feel good from head to toe. Not only do these natural chemicals elevate your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain.

Many see smiling simply as an involuntary response to things that bring you joy or laughter. While this observation is certainly true, Countless scientific studies have shed light on how the act of smiling can elevate your mood and the mood of those around you.

A strong link has been found between good health, longevity, and smiling. Most importantly, studies have shown that just the act of smiling (making the physical facial shapes and movements), whether the result of real joy or an act, can have both short- and long-term benefits on people's health and wellbeing.

  1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive you can use the attraction power of your smile to draw people in. We are naturally drawn to people who smile. There is a real physical attraction factor linked to the act of smiling.
  2. Smiling Relieves Stress Believe it or not, smiling can reduce stress  even if you don't feel like smiling or even know that you're smiling! When you are stressed, take the time to put on a smile. You and those around you will reap the benefits. Stress can permeate our entire being, and can really show up in our faces. Smiling not only helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed but can actually help reduce stress.
  3. Smiling Elevates Our Mood Smiling can trick the body into helping you elevate your mood because the physical act of smiling actually activates neural messaging in your brain.

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance your mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you elevate your mood because the physical act of smiling actually activates neural messaging in your brain.

A simple smile can trigger the release of neural communication boosting neuropeptides as well as mood-boosting neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin. Think of smiling like a natural anti-depressant.

  1. Smiling Is Contagious Smiling not only has the power to elevate your mood, but it can also change the moods of others and make things happier.

How many smiles have been described as having the power to lighten up the room? While it is certainly a beautiful sentiment, it carries a hint of truth. Smiling not only has the power to elevate your mood, but it can also change the moods of others and make things happier.

The part of your brain that is responsible for your controlling the facial expression of smiling is an unconscious automatic response area. Meaning that smiling can be completely unconscious, particularly when it comes to our habit of mimicking another person's smile. Yes, it is scientifically proven that smiles are "contagious!"

  1. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System The act of smiling actually helps the human immune system to function more effectively. Smiling can also boost your overall health. The act of smiling actually helps the human immune system to function more effectively. It is thought that when you smile, immune function improves because you are more relaxed (thanks to the release of certain neurotransmitters).

In addition to taking precautions like washing your hands, why not try to prevent the cold and flu by smiling?

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure-Try this one yourself  When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

  1. Smiling Makes Us Feel Good Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural painkillers, and serotonin. Together these three neurotransmitters make us feel good from head to toe. Not only do these natural chemicals elevate your mood, but they also relax your body and reduce physical pain. Smiling is a natural drug.
  2. Smiling Makes Us appear more Attractive. Not only can smiling make you more attractive it can also make you look more youthful. The muscles we use to smile also lift the face, making a person appear younger. So instead of opting for a facelift, just try smiling your way through the day—you'll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful Studies have shown that people who smile regularly appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and are more likely to be approached. Try putting on a smile at meetings and business appointments. You might find that people react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard, isn't it?

Even when a smile feels unnatural or forced, it still sends the brain and ultimately the rest of our body the message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress, and worry by smiling.

How can you bring a smile to your face or find things in your day to be grateful for. No matter what.  Do it for the next week to add 1 step to having in a happier life right now,

So check them out too.  Anxiety Simplified on iTunes and on my You tube channel named “Anxiety simplified Podcast” has the videos of the podcast, that teaches skills. AND you can easily see my podcast at my website AnxitySimplified.net

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Emergency Depression and Suicide Prevention Techniques

Introduction to anxiety simplified

Joanne S. Williams, LCSW a 30-year a Mental Health counselor heard a statistics that scared even a seasoned counselor. She is offering techniques to use right now for ways to help people who are suffering.

  • The Statistic that the CDC is now seeing that 11% of Americans have seriously considered suicide in June 2020. That's double the percentage from 2018. And the rates are highest in 18 to 24-year old’s and Unpaid caregivers for adults.

These are college age young people  who just graduated without a traditional graduation, who are now maybe not going to college, maybe are in college for the first time, in a very different world than they ever imagined their wonderful college years to be. AND our Unsung heroes who are caregivers for the disabled, sick or Alzheimer’s family members.

In this Podcast You will learn:

  • Simple Techniques to use now, to calm yourself or Share with those that you love.
  • Stats on how Americans are feeling right now
  • What you can do to help someone now
  • Pet a dog or get a certified Emotional Support Animal
  • Book-Ask it is Given Esther Hicks
  • Donna Eden Energy Medicine

Corona virus has killed 170,000 Americans and counting. Grief is all around us.

I think it's up to each one of us, not the government, not your state, not your governor. Take care of you and your family at this point.  Share this information.

In Washington Post article in May, 2020, talked about a shadow pandemic, a mental health pandemic!

  • We've seen anxiety rates average 18- 20% Anxiety and depression has gone up to 33 to 50% in our US population AND only 39% are seeking treatment
  • The Kaiser Family Foundation is reporting that nearly 50% of Americans are reporting that this corona virus is harming their mental health.
  • A federal emergency hotline is you're putting 1000% increase of calls from last year, thousand percent, we can't even imagine this.
  • Another study found that 77% of Americans are feeling their concentration is affected.
  • 31% are lonelier.
  • 39% more irritable.
  • 72%, our lives are feeling disrupted.
  • And 74% feel, the worst is yet to come. We Call that a sense of doom.

Every single one of those, these are symptoms, of anxiety and depression.  And I want you to know these symptoms, because that is what we need to be on the lookout for ourselves, our families, our coworkers, our kid’s friends as they go back to school.

Click for Free Resources

Depression HELP LINE -1800-273-8255

(PUT THIS NUMBER IN YOUR PHONE NOW)

If not for you, for the friend who confides in you.  Hit this number and Hand them your phone to talk with someone in that moment.

www.MHANational.org Mental Health America

ISMOHO.org International Society for Mental Health

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Transcript 

  • Joanne Williams, LCSW

Good morning.

This is Joanne Williams Anxiety Simplified, and I heard something this morning that was so concerning to me that I wanted to do kind of an emergency podcast and I'm going to call this Podcast emergency techniques for anxiety and depression and this includes suicide.

I heard something this morning that was so concerning to me, that it is really driving me to do this podcast.  I'm usually, know, happy, go lucky, and want to focus that way on happiness.

But this, hit me, and I felt immediately, I need to share what I have seen and heard as a as 30 years, as a licensed mental health professional, And a private practice counselor, all this time, and, and really having to find ways to help people. With anxiety, depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.

That are simple and helpful and useful right now. And I feel like that is where we are in a crisis.

This month is August 2020. And the Coronavirus has killed 160,000 Americans already.

People don't seem to be taking this as serious as it should to help.

I think it's up to each one of us, not the government, not your state, not your governor Take care of you and your family at this point.

Sometimes, I, as I look at it, as, I'm going to put myself in my own bubble to protect me from others' thoughts about this whole thing or seeing people without masks.

That really brings me fear, or anxiety or hearing the political happenings around a government that looks like it's going more towards authoritarian or a dictatorship.

It is just very concerning and so much is compounding us.

That now Washington Post article in May, 2020, talked about a shadow pandemic, a mental health shadow pandemic.

And I do see this now already happening in this article from Washington Post, May 2020.

That previously we've seen anxiety rates about 18, 20%. It's gone up to 33, to 50% anxiety and depression, especially in our most vulnerable states.

But the Kaiser Family Foundation is reporting that nearly 50% Americans are reporting that this coronavirus is harming their mental health.

And a federal emergency hotline is you're putting 1000% increase of calls from last year, thousand percent, We can't even imagine these things.

  • Another study found that 77% of Americans are feeling their concentration is affected.
  • 31% are lonelier.
  • 39% more irritable.
  • 72%, our lives are feeling disrupted.
  • And 74% feel, the worst is yet to come. We Call that a sense of doom.

Every single one of those, these are symptoms, of anxiety and depression.  And I want you to know these symptoms, because that is what we need to be on the lookout for ourselves, our families, our coworkers, our kid’s friends as they go back to school.

  • The Statistic that hit me this morning, that the CDC is now seeing that 11% of Americans have can seriously considered suicide in June 2020. That's double the percentage from 2018.  And the rates are highest in 18 to 24 year old’s and unpaid caregivers for adults.

These are college age, children who just graduated from high school without a traditional graduation, who are now maybe, not going to college, maybe are in college for the first time, in it being a very different world than they ever imagined their wonderful college years to be.  And 11 % percent of 18-24 yrs. and UNpaid Caregivers are seriously considering suicide, not just thinking about harming themselves, Taking Their Lives.  These are our Grandchildren, Sons, Daughters, Grandparents, Mothers or Fathers that are caring for your family member.  

They are NOT asking for help!  ASK THEM “WHAT CAN I DO TO LESSEN YOUR STRESS!”  They don’t know what to do.  They are overwhelmed, shutting down, because their brain can’t process information anymore to make decisions.  They need your help. If it is paying for someone to give them 15 minutes to go to the store of take a nap, to caught up on their sleep. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture, just do something.  Listen to a young adult, look for these symptoms.

This is a crisis time right now through December at least this year, as the worst time.

“USE THESE TECHNIQUES NOW” TO HELP

  1. Simplest thing you can do is to use your most natural way to relax and calm yourself: BREATHE in through your nose and out through your mouth. 4 X.

Anytime you get anxious to calm yourself.  We forget our most natural relaxing way.  DO IT NOW. It will take only 1 minute.

  1. KISS- use the same coffee mug that you love.  Use it every day, keep some rituals, driving the same way to work.  Start your day with something you love to do.  Listen to music.  Smell a flower.  Find something you enjoy. The Simple rituals calm us.
  2. Give some time to yourself first before family time. So, you have more to give when you are calmer. This is critical. There is a reason the flight attendants say put your oxygen mask on first.
  3. I made a 5-minute Relief now meditation on my website AnxietySimplified.net you can listen to anytime.
  4. GET A DOG-I do evaluations for people to have their dog certified as an Emotional Support Animal ESA and that is one of the simplest ways to calm yourself.  You can take them to fly and be in no pet housing.  Your listener can go to www.esapros.com and take the 1 minute prequalification worksheet to see if they will qualify for an ESA with the 3 qualifiers to receive a letter to give to property manager or the airlines. Or see the video https://vimeo.com/412779248 
  5. S-M-I-L-E    You will get through this.
  6. Take a walk and look off in the distance, this has been shown to as affected as depression medications.
  7. Open up your arms over your head like you are going to Yawn and reach up and look up and Smile and feel the good and the blessings from above coming into you and reach up and drawn them into your heart.  It will change your mood immediately.
  8. Think 3 things right now you are grateful for.  If you can’t think of 3 quickly.  You need to practice this one.  I hope this includes you SO or children, sunshine or rain.  Your abilities. Your DOG.
  9. KNOW YOU ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS.  Or choices about your life.  
  10. Trace a heart over you heart 3 times.
  11. Place your left hand on your heart and right hand on your belly and say.  Open heart soft belly. And breathe. This is a Donna Eden Energy medicine technique. Then tap on the back of your left hand between the ring and little finger. 
  12. Look at only the good in any situation. Decide to let go of the Drama and CHOOSE to see what is going on well.
  13. Be FOR something instead of Against something.  It will change your focus.  Be for a cause instead of against one.  Be for peace, instead of against war.   Be for understanding instead of against a certain type of groups. 
  14. Use compassion as much as possible to understand that we don’t know what this person is going through right now.  Their poor behaviors my not be about you, but you are in front of them, but they may have just lost their wife or husband to sickness. 
  15. Focus on the positive and what you want in your life. Instead of the negative and what is going wrong. 
  16. Focus only on what is going right in your life or in the world not at the drama.
  17. Your emotions are your guidance system, listen for what they are telling you. Anxiety is to get prepared, get ready. 
  18. Take Yoga, it helps with physical, emotional and breathing. 

Use these: Depression HELP LINE -1800-273-8255

www.MHANational.org Mental Health America

ISMOHO.org Int’l Society for MH 

So these are college age, children who now for the hour, that may have just graduated without graduation, who are now maybe not going to college, maybe are in college for the first time, in it being a very different world than they ever imagined their wonderful college years to be.

This is serious. But, there is things we can do, and that's when I want to share right now.

But, the main point here is, is that you need to focus, instead of where all this looks like it's headed thou not having the anxiety.

Life isn't worth living. Poor me. I don't like it. I'm fearful. Shift that. Focus back to what it is you want in your life. Instead of looking at the drama And all this that's going on, sometimes I feel like I call it put blinders on.

But what I'm choosing right now is happiness and joy in my life, and having surrounding myself with healthy people, happy people that will help me stay focused on what it is I want more of in my life right now.

That is looking at your thoughts about it and your feelings about it, how do I create that feeling?

I am happy. I am healthy.  I have things I am grateful for, And sometimes, if nothing else you can do, I am grateful for having hands that work.

Think about all the things that it takes to make these fingers. My brain has to say, go to this finger , Move, this.

Muscle move that all the things that just happened in our body, to make ourselves, have hands, that work or feet, that will take us places.

But it is your thoughts.

And, feelings that, start, this process is marched to what it is we want.

I don't think people realize this, and I don't hear it anywhere.

I don't know anybody else talking about this, that's why I want you to hear this here, this now.  Universal laws and principles.

You get what you asked for you, get what you focus on.

Most of the time, what you think about most of the time is what is created.

Something has to start. Starts with a thought, to create something.

A feeling of, all, my gosh, when I get that feel that feeling, of happiness, joy, that love around me.

It is the easiest and the best thing in the world to do.

I call it simplest that's why I went with anxiety simplified.

It is simple.

But it can be difficult because we don't belive the thought starts here.

Don't believe I can be happy.

I don't believe us.

I'll succeed.

I don't.

I don't I can't, I won't, I never.

Get them out. Take them out. Focus, I can, I will I can feel this, I will. I know I can, I am Words, I am successful, I am happy. I am worthy. I am secure, I am safe. And in this moment, no. You are create that feeling. I am feeling safe, I am happy.

And that's all you need to do. Focus on what it is.

 You want more of.. create that thought pattern and feeling pattern, And this is actually what my ACT Act method that you can find on my website, anxiety simplified. net will take you through. It's free.  Just download it.

You can do it yourself or call us, and I'm happy to give you recommendations and help.

But this needs to be started now, when 11% Our college age kids are seriously considering suicide right now, right now. And our caregivers, Unpaid Caregivers.

Sisters or spouse's,  your grandmother or grandfather, taking care of the other one was sickness or Alzheimer's. They're isolated.

You know what you feel like, because you're isolated.

What if you also had the care of someone that you love, but they're saying?

Yeah, I invited coming to help me.

They're probably not asking, and that's what I'm saying to you.

Ask for what it is you want.

And I will give you some other techniques right now.

But I do want you to keep it simple.

I don't want to make this more complicated or harder.

Simple is going to be the best.

It doesn't overtax your brain, breathe, practice your breath in through your nose, even so that you lift your belly, and breathe out through your mouth and feel at far bre, then.

Fill your belly rise.

In my meditations that I have on our website, anxiety simplified dot net, you can see there get at least to up the end of most. Not most, many of the podcast. I do a meditation because this is so critical for calming yourself for learning. Because this is all cumulative whether it's positive or negative, whatever we're doing right now in our lives.

So either you're increasing stress or you're decreasing it.

We never stay the same, growing or dying, always the way it is.

So start to accumulate the calm with just your breath.

Keeping things really simple: there, K I S S, Technique.

Even just using the same mug that you love how it feels in your hand.

Use that every day.

Keeps some rituals in your life that to bring you.

Some sense of just normalcy.

Drive the same way if you're driving to work.

Start your day with something you love, smelling of flower, meditating, being with your loved ones, having a happy breakfast, Make it happy, naked joy felt.

Listen to music, dance a little bit.

Find something you enjoy, simple, rituals, calm, us, doing the same thing.

Just like you're doing the same thing with the thoughts you want, Bring the feeling connected to it, to then practice that continuing through the day.

I am happy, I bring joy to my life.

I feel the joy.

You can feel it come over you and that's when you want to really, truly know that you're there. Feel it.  Do a five minute relief meditation.

 Go to anxiety simplified. net and listen to it.

Please rate and review to when you do it, if you really like it.  I'm trying to get i-tunes to notice me.

Get a dog. If you have a dog, grab your dog, it really has shown that even patting your dog for 10 minutes. Or 'hug kitty cat, she heard me, well, I had a cat, I hamster.

Yes, she is, Bobby here, a cry It can help us calm study, show.

So, you can get an emotional support animal so that you can fly with them or keep them in housing if you're afraid or you know, pat housing.

We do those and you can see more at our sister website ESApros.com for an emotional support animal, you can take the one minute pre-qualification to see if you qualify.

But, it's really, really, really important to work on some of these things and work on them daily.

Do you know what is my SMILE does to the way you feel inside?

Try it.

It's amazing, how this one works.

I think three things that you are grateful for right now.

My family, my friends, my dog, my home, my ability to have a kitty cat right here.

Three things I am grateful for.

Now, we know that our animals help us because, the shelters are empty during covet.

Keep thinking of things you're grateful for.

Grateful for the sunshine.

Grateful for the rain.

Your abilities that you do have a job or that you do have family that you can depend on.

Told you this was impromptu.

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They know you always have options. I always have options or choices in your life. Always, always.

They may not seem like you do always know, think.

What are my options right now?

Trace your heart three times.

About placing your left hand on your heart, and you're right on your belly.

Yeah, do that, again, place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your belly, and say, open heart, soft Belley, and breathe.

Donna Eden Technique, energy, medicine technique.

And think about what you want, and when happiness and health, great immune system, My kids to be safe as they go off to school, whatever it is that's most important right now, you can do any of them and all of them.

Just breathe and feel how this is calming.

Can do this anytime in the day.

Combining some things here, tapping of meridian's, energy Madison. Thousand year old, meridian's, we've known about as rivers of energy.

Doesn't have to be woo.

We'll just use it.

Choose to look only at the good in a situation.

Do you know you have the choice of that?

And not to choose the drama that it seems like right now it's like everywhere, and that's what we choose, is the drama. Choose to see the good or see past, maybe where somebody is trying to take you with their drama.

You are control of your attention where it goes. Your thoughts will follow.

So you have a choice here.

Make unknown conscious choice.

I choose just to feel calm and see the good in things.

This is a really important one, too, that I don't really know who I've ever heard, except Esther Hicks.

In the book.

Ask and, it is given.

Great book recommended, Highly Esther Hicks.See on YouTube.

But before, something, instead of against something be for, Justice, be for peace, instead of against war or against racism. Be for, understanding, instead of against certain groups, focus on what you want is to focus on what you are for Sort of, a political party.

Or against a person, or a political party, be for what you want in that party: Equality, fairness, justice, peace.

Use compassion as much as possible to understand that we know what this person might be going through.

You don't know that they just lost their grandma.

Or, God forbid their spouse from this virus, or in the hospital unknowing on a ventilator.We have a lot of grief right now, a lot, a lot of grief.

And there is a difference between grief and depression.

Grief is short lived or we hope it does when it gets back.

I call it.

That's when it goes into depression.

Depression, We look at it for major depression.

I'll show you my DSM.This is our little book that we use for diagnosing, and it's called the Diagnostic.Manual, for Mental Health Disorders, DSM, this is the fifth edition.But this is what we look at, for depression and the symptoms of, like, post-traumatic stress disorder.

Which, one of the things that, in this Washington Post?

Talking about continual exposure. Two stressors.

Like we're going through, can create secondary, traumatic stress, snap host, traumatic PTSD.

But secondaries. Traumatic stress, which has some of the same components up, dramatic stress, it's overwhelming, our coping mechanisms.

And it makes for it shut down.

And that is components of both of these are depression and anxiety.

But when things feel so out of control, you feel helpless or hopelessness is a depression major depression symptom.

If you felt it in the last 14 days, when we look forward to diagnosis, we looked just in the last 14 days for major depression, can go beyond, of course, but to diagnosis, di Agnos helplessness is one of the keys, or just a lack of interest in doing things.

I don't care what you know what goes on, motivation goes down, I don't really care whatever is going on at School  That sadness, overwhelming says

I feel like I'm doing digging deeper.Not getting out of this hole.That's what depression can feel like.And yes, it can be low grade, we can have it mild, moderate, or severe.

But it's the symptoms, these feelings, you want to look for, poor concentration.

We named some of these earlier.Maybe just numbness, that's when it can go into post-traumatic stress disorder.

I'm just so overwhelmed.

I am numb.

Getting angry or cynical, feeling really hopeless.

Nothing is going to work sleepless or disturbed sleep.

Again, depression, too much sleep, too little sleep, waking up, chronic exhaustion of energy.


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And then, of course, that 11% is what we're talking about right now that are actually feeling like they want to commit suicide.

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11% of our kids, your kids, almost one out of ten, look around, one out of ten in this room, with your family, with your greater family, one out of almost 10, 11%, so one out of eleven, serious.

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If you're feeling these things, it's critical.

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You do something.

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You must act.

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There's a depression hotline, 1 800, 273, 82 55.

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I'll make sure it's in the show notes 1 800.

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Put this in your phone.

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Everybody should put this in their phone.

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If it's not for you, it's for your friend.

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When they're saying these things, and you don't know what to do, I don't know what to do.

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Hit this number, hand them the phone.

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1, 800, 273 8 to 5 5.

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There's somebody standing by right now.

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Put this in your phone right now.

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1, 800, 273-8255.

There's a Mental Health America website. www.MHANational.org Mental Health America

ISMOHO.org Int’l Society for Mental Health  There are people waiting to help you. You have to ask, going right back up to the top, You must ask for what you want. Right now, it's important that you use compassion for each other. We need to help each other right now. This is a time of crisis.

And I know the natural tendency is think about yourself, which you do want to do number one.

Take care of yourself first, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then you can put it on somebody else.

But don't let somebody else's poor behavior affect you, or effect where yura options and choices, be focused on what it is you need, and you want in your life.

 

First, repetition, what you think about most of the time is, what happens in your life.

Create the feeling.

 

And like I said, I have this act method on my website that you can get for free, which is A, for awareness aware of those thoughts that I am thinking and refocusing than on what I want.

That C is Connect, connect that thought with the feeling to feel what it is you want.

The T is train your brain with practice, that sequence.

 

What do I want with the thought? What I need to feel with that thought, to create it, practice it, thought, feeling action Awareness comes first, So is that a you gotta be aware of what you're thinking and feeling.

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Know, your emotions or your guidance system, they are not trying to sabotage you, they're not trying to work against you.

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And listen to what they are telling you.

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Anxiety, each one of them have their own information.

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They're giving you anxiety is to get prepared.

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That's why we need to wear masks.

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We need to do things of washing our hands.

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We have to prepare.

Prepare, take, action.  You can also do some things physically. It's very important for your mental health to move your body, get up up and down the stairs, if nothing else, up and down, walk the dog get outside.

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Look at the sunshine Look at the horizon, look ahead of you, as you walk not down.

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Look, I had a view that has been shown to be as good as an anti-depressant.

Look ahead, add up.

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Breathe.

Use these resources and call these helplines if you need it.

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They're all here for you, But you must, ask, Look out, around you for the children that have their heads down. They're feeling overwhelmed, I don't know what to do. They're stuck. They can't think. They can't move. I don't know what decisions.

It's too much. I'm overwhelmed. That's a shutdown, it's too much.

The people that are not feeling too much need to help the others, So please, everyone, let's support each other, work together, be loving to each other.

Meditate, go to that place of just letting go.

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And and knowing that you have extra-terrestrial.

If you want to call them, angelic supporters, ask for them.

Whatever you believe, your source, whatever that is, God, it is always waiting for you to ask.

We have for you Well, you must ask.

There is so much support and Source's waiting for you to ask.

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Maybe you do want to ask your angels to come and support you, and lift you and hold you, and help you to come ask who's gonna now.

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Do some things that create your happiness right now.

In any way, you can find it.

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There is so much good stuff.

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Donna, Eden staff, YouTube, Esther Hicks, Wonderful things on the internet.

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There's so much free about my podcast, Anxiety Simplified.

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I'm putting so many free resources up.

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This is 30 years of what I've condensed that I know, for sure, works.

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My ACT method is step by step.

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It works.

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I use it with clients.

I'm updating it.

I'm gonna put pictures in it, so that you can put your, go to the, go to the Internet, and put a picture that makes you feel good in front of you on your mirror.

I am successful, I am happy.

I am a good mother, father, sister, brother, student, whatever it is you are, say it, and feel it, and I feel excited when I think that way, I feel happy.

When I dance, I feel I and put that in a picture and look at it as many times a day and say those words I am, and feel it.

For now, I hope this is helpful, I just could not hear this statistic and not say something to you.

I truly do care, and I love you all, and let's all go with love.

Bye for now.

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