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Podcast 32: Nelson Mandela Used These 3 Principals-Part 2

No Bloody Insurrections in Apartheid Because of Principals Used With My Guest’s father and Desmond Tutu in So. Africa

Podcast (Audio Only)

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW discusses with Simon Chadwick a South African born, British educated, American citizen. Grew up as the son of a prominent anti-apartheid activist, lived in two totalitarian societies so African and Kenya and sees it happening in the USA. He has a Career as CEO in Italy, UK and USA. Owner of a firm of management consultants. Intensely interested in and concerned about politics and society in modern-day America.

His book ‘For the People:  A Citizen’s Manifesto to Shaping Our Nation’s Future’  A guide to start a conversation to heal American divisions.

So today we focus: Solutions for building a safer more secure society to reduce our common anx.  While creating a shared reality that we all want to live by.

Summary of today Podcast: 

  1. The basic contract that exists in a democracy that we hold dear that we may have forgotten we do have to work from
  2. How fragile this contract can be when authoritarianism takes hold
  3. How authoritarian rulers all have a psychopathology that drives their need to be right and a mindset that is a challenge to their very core self that needs to be protected at all costs.
  4. How fear can be used to divide us, but security unites us.

Question for today is? How to open up conversations between democrats and Republicans and Americans to have a common reality. American Tribes and same values

Simon Chadwick shared his life story of a Living in So. Africa, where his father was clergy, jailed and exiled for working with Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu for apartheid justice.

Simon wrote his book as a guide to not allow what happened in South Africa happen in America, as he saw the red flags of authoritarian rise since 2015.

In  a democratic society, there is a social contract between government and electors: government provides a framework of security in return for payment of taxes and observance of reasonable laws so that all can be long and thrive. “Security” derives from the Latin word “securitas”, which can be translated as “freedom from fear”. In modern society, fear (or anxiety) is not just something that is physical. It can relate to economic anxiety, ill health, lack of education and opportunity, the environment (small and large), and security in old age. It can be rooted in discrimination and oppression. The social contract requires an equitable framework for all people – government “of the people, by the people, for the people”.

This Social contract between the government is missing the safety net so that the American people can live within the framework of security that the government is supposed to hold sacred for the people to be able to go to work and pursue happiness. It has broken down, since the loss of labor unions, no more pensions, or health benefits and good enough paying jobs to own a home or keep in business.

In America a real safety net has been eroding for the last 50 years, since President Ronald Reagan.  It was about Individualism-pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, it is the individual’s fault, if they don’t have a job or pension. Many disenfranchised workers, that lost their good union jobs in steel, manufacturing, car industry were left out to dry, without re-training or finding better jobs.  They watch their jobs go over seas for lower waged jobs to replace them.  There have been years of a slow decline of mostly white males losing jobs, status and they may feel resentment and angry and want someone to blame.

They may blame the government or someone that has been more disenfranchised for longer than them, black and brown people they can again beat up and feel superior too. 

Then on Jan. 6th, 2021 there were white supremacists invading the US capital in the name of the President of the US. Who is someone admired for his power, and willing to do everything he can to keep his power.

The last 20 years the republican party policies have been more toward more authoritarian rule.   Part of why that works is that someone will take care you. Anxiety is a product of insecurity. We all need and seek security so that, ultimately, we can belong and succeed. Look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs.

What can we do as Americans to restore our Democratic ways:

  1. One way is to listen to know the disenfranchised person’s story. Listen and ask questions to understand their story, not to change their mind, but to understand. Present another side with facts.

Use these 3 Principals:

3 Principals that Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu used in So. Africa in apartheid to have a peaceful transition of power.

  1. Always use Nonviolence means
  2. Always stick together. Other countries step in to boycott and pressure the country
  3. Always Speak from Love

3.Be involved and speak up and use your voice

4.Find ways to restore belonging and Unity, with your neighbors and family members who disagree.

5.Focus on solutions for increased consciously awareness turning away from it only about me, to us mentality.  Understanding that we at a cross point.

6.Commit to a shared reality of what we want as a country. Democracy of the many decide the rules and laws, or autocratic ruler wants few to have power.  You must pick a side.

All anti-social personalities or Psychopaths need someone to say no to them. Like any bully they need someone to stand up to them.

If you see any of these behaviors, beware and see it as a red flag.

There are Psychopathic tendencies, one sturdy found, in 20% of our Corporate leaders.

A Psychopath has a need to protect their beliefs, that they are right at all costs, they want power to the few, politician and corporation instead of the people in the republic with building more labor unions and policies that support basic human rights, like health care, voting rights, nondiscrimination of all types of people, including immigrates, who are the backbone of our country and have always been?

Psychopathic tendencies they can feel Threatened- first response is to blame. This is a defense against feeling they have a part in this issue. 

There are women leaders in the world that have done a good job with Covid 19 like New Zealand, Finnish countries, where they have more Social conscious awareness.

Simon Chadwick book is: For the People: A Citizen’s Manifesto to Shaping Our Nation’s Future   www.simonchadwick.us

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Podcast 31: Nelson Mandela Used These 3 Principals

No Bloody Insurrections in Apartheid Because of Principals Used With My Guest’s father and Desmond Tutu in So. Africa

Podcast (Audio Only)

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW discusses with Simon Chadwick a South African born, British educated, American citizen. Grew up as the son of a prominent anti-apartheid activist, lived in two totalitarian societies so African and Kenya and sees it happening in the USA. He has a Career as CEO in Italy, UK and USA. Owner of a firm of management consultants. Intensely interested in and concerned about politics and society in modern-day America.

His book ‘For the People:  A Citizen’s Manifesto to Shaping Our Nation’s Future’  A guide to start a conversation to heal American divisions.

So today we focus: Solutions for building a safer more secure society to reduce our common anx.  While creating a shared reality that we all want to live by.

Summary of today Podcast: 

  1. The basic contract that exists in a democracy that we hold dear that we may have forgotten we do have to work from
  2. How fragile this contract can be when authoritarianism takes hold
  3. How authoritarian rulers all have a psychopathology that drives their need to be right and a mindset that is a challenge to their very core self that needs to be protected at all costs.
  4. How fear can be used to divide us, but security unites us.

Question for today is? How to open up conversations between democrats and Republicans and Americans to have a common reality. American Tribes and same values

Simon Chadwick shared his life story of a Living in So. Africa, where his father was clergy, jailed and exiled for working with Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu for apartheid justice.

Simon wrote his book as a guide to not allow what happened in South Africa happen in America, as he saw the red flags of authoritarian rise since 2015.

In  a democratic society, there is a social contract between government and electors: government provides a framework of security in return for payment of taxes and observance of reasonable laws so that all can be long and thrive. “Security” derives from the Latin word “securitas”, which can be translated as “freedom from fear”. In modern society, fear (or anxiety) is not just something that is physical. It can relate to economic anxiety, ill health, lack of education and opportunity, the environment (small and large), and security in old age. It can be rooted in discrimination and oppression. The social contract requires an equitable framework for all people – government “of the people, by the people, for the people”.

This Social contract between the government is missing the safety net so that the American people can live within the framework of security that the government is supposed to hold sacred for the people to be able to go to work and pursue happiness. It has broken down, since the loss of labor unions, no more pensions, or health benefits and good enough paying jobs to own a home or keep in business.

In America a real safety net has been eroding for the last 50 years, since President Ronald Reagan.  It was about Individualism-pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, it is the individual’s fault, if they don’t have a job or pension. Many disenfranchised workers, that lost their good union jobs in steel, manufacturing, car industry were left out to dry, without re-training or finding better jobs.  They watch their jobs go over seas for lower waged jobs to replace them.  There have been years of a slow decline of mostly white males losing jobs, status and they may feel resentment and angry and want someone to blame.

They may blame the government or someone that has been more disenfranchised for longer than them, black and brown people they can again beat up and feel superior too. 

Then on Jan. 6th, 2021 there were white supremacists invading the US capital in the name of the President of the US. Who is someone admired for his power, and willing to do everything he can to keep his power.

The last 20 years the republican party policies have been more toward more authoritarian rule.   Part of why that works is that someone will take care you. Anxiety is a product of insecurity. We all need and seek security so that, ultimately, we can belong and succeed. Look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs.

What can we do as Americans to restore our Democratic ways:

  1. One way is to listen to know the disenfranchised person’s story. Listen and ask questions to understand their story, not to change their mind, but to understand. Present another side with facts.

Use these 3 Principals:

3 Principals that Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu used in So. Africa in apartheid to have a peaceful transition of power.

  1. Always use Nonviolence means
  2. Always stick together. Other countries step in to boycott and pressure the country
  3. Always Speak from Love
  4. Be involved and speak up and use your voice
  5. Find ways to restore belonging and Unity, with your neighbors and family members who disagree.
  6. Focus on solutions for increased consciously awareness turning away from it only about me, to us mentality.  Understanding that we at a cross point.
  7. Commit to a shared reality of what we want as a country. Democracy of the many decide the rules and laws, or autocratic ruler wants few to have power.  You must pick a side.

All anti-social personalities or Psychopaths need someone to say no to them. Like any bully they need someone to stand up to them.

If you see any of these behaviors, beware and see it as a red flag.

There are Psychopathic tendencies, one sturdy found, in 20% of our Corporate leaders.

A Psychopath has a need to protect their beliefs, that they are right at all costs, they want power to the few, politician and corporation instead of the people in the republic with building more labor unions and policies that support basic human rights, like health care, voting rights, nondiscrimination of all types of people, including immigrates, who are the backbone of our country and have always been?

Psychopathic tendencies they can feel Threatened- first response is to blame. This is a defense against feeling they have a part in this issue. 

There are women leaders in the world that have done a good job with Covid 19 like New Zealand, Finnish countries, where they have more Social conscious awareness.

Simon Chadwick book is: For the People: A Citizen’s Manifesto to Shaping Our Nation’s Future At: simonchadwick.us

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Our next podcast: is Part II Nelson Mandela used these 3 Principals That Every Americans Can Use Now  

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Black Lives Matter in America Creates Anxiety-Part 2

Introduction to anxiety simplified

Would you want to trade places with a black person today?

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW interview continues on Racism in America with a Black Therapist friend, coworker Jemal Knowles, CMHC, who has experience with the Black Life Matters and the protests and even arrested. 

  • The Dalai Lama pointed out on his 85th birthday that he thinks that what is happening in America as having very narrow thinking. 
  • Being a black therapist with accountability of his actions while little accountability on Police to protect is faltering and this experiences on Black Lives Matter Protest.
  • Conversation around racial issues and solutions that we can move past where we are now and to heal the inequities that have continued without repair In America.
  • Solutions for anxiety that has been created by the multiple layers of current issues impacted deeper, if you are a person of color, poor, or in a state that has all of these layers compounded by a health pandemic.
  • 2 books Jemal recommends are: White Fragility by Robin Di Angleo- She asks- Why it is so hard for white people to talk about Racism White Privilege And Tears We cannot Stop -Michael Eric Dyson- What Truth sounds like. 
  • From this book Jemal gleaned the question you might want to ask other white friends: Would you want to trade places with a black person today?
  • A bill passed the House of Representatives, the Heroes bill, was sent to the Senate with accountability on Police for their actions and stripping away immunity laws and the mostly white males in the Senate just made feeble recommendations to Police to not choke people with no accountability in it. There it sits and goes nowhere, more of the same for 200 years or state sanctioned kills of black people.
  • How do we move forward with having these tough conversations? One solution I believe is critical is to be FOR something, for equality, for truth, instead of AGAINST racism.  That way you can focus our intention to draw this to us, now when we express what we really want. 
  • True economic equality, equity that is shared in America.  True Respect for human right and that Black Lives do Matter to face racism in America.

Next podcast episode: Resources for Food Insecurity in America.

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This is Joanne Williams, LCSW Anxiety Simplified Podcast Part 2 narrative of the 6-20 interview on Being Black in America. An interview with Jemal Knowles a Licensed Mental Health Therapist, who I have the pleasure to work with in our agency Next Generation Psychology as we do Emotional Support Animal evaluations for the last 3 years. 

He has had some experience with the Black Life Matters and the protests and even arrested. 

I really wanted to interview him and get his opinion and his experiences on being black in American and being a black therapist and the perspective, he brings to the table just as his perspective, no one else’s.  Not speaking for any community.  

And us, as a white woman and a black man have a conversation around racial issues and solutions that we can move past where we are now and to heal the inequities that have continued without repair In America.

With the focus of this podcast to be around solutions for anxiety that has been created by the multiple layers of current issues we are all dealing with, but impacted deeper, if you are a person of color, poor, or in a state that has all of the these layers compounded by a health pandemic.

2 books Jemal recommends are: White Fragility by Robin Di Angleo- She asks- Why it is so hard for white people to talk about Racism.    From this book Jemal gleaned the question you might want to ask other white friends: Would you want to trade places with a black person today? 

And another Book- Tears We cannot Stop -Michael Eric Dyson- What Truth sounds like-These Powerful titles. 

We started off the conversation with a quote from the Dalia Lama at his 85th birthday; The Dalai Lama pointed out this month on his 85th birthday that he thinks that what is happening in America as having very narrow thinking. 

I think it is about loving and respecting all people and having self-love, but that may not be enough to change the wave of holding on to White Privilege and ignoring accountability by white police with them having immunity.  Jemal felt he didn’t fee he could trust the laws to protect him.  They have been used against the black race for years and years. I did express hope that a bill that just passed the House of Representatives, the Heroes bill, was sent to the Senate with accountability on Police for their actions and stripping away immunity laws and the mostly white males in the Senate just made feeble recommendations to Police to not choke people with no accountability in it. There it sits and goes nowhere, more of the same for 200 years or state sanctioned kills of black people.

How do we move forward with having these tough conversations?

One solution I believe is critical is to be FOR something, for equality, for truth, instead of AGAINST racism.  That way you can focus our intention to draw this to us, now when we express what we really want. 

I want to see true equality, equity that is shared in America.  True Respect for each other’s opinions and most of all feeling able to focus on our self-love.  That can build confidence and empowerment that will build us all up.  It is time.

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Podcast 7: Arrested in Black Lives Matter Protest -Part 1

Introduction to anxiety simplified

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW  has a conversation with Jemal Knowles, CMHC who was arrested in the Black lives Matter protests in June 2020

What it is truly like being black in America

  • We had an open conversation about how it feels to be Black in America, looking in the rear view mirror if Police are there, Driving While Black (DWB) “Having the Talk” With our sons about how you react to Police if stopped, can save your life.
  • Why Black Lives Matter as a discussion. Because there is a racism issue to be discussed to heal and move forward.
  • Whose responsibility is it to “educate” the public on racism issues. The anxiety living black create and weighs down.
  • 2 books White Fragility by Robin Di Angelo as part of the education for white people as they look at their white privilege and how they can look for their own racist view or racist statement that white people don’t realize they make. And Tears We cannot Stop -Michael Eric Dyson- What Truth sounds like-
  • Moral outrage that is felt by Joanne for the Central Park “Karen” calling the Police on a black man bird watching , while Jemal feels, complacent of these kinds of things that happen everyday being black he feels like it is just another day.
  • The compounding issues with a pandemic with social and health risks because of the systemic issues with poverty that more people of color are effected by
  • The question to ask a white Friend- Would you like to change places with a Black man today.

Next podcast episode: Part 2 BLM racism conversation

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Anxiety simplified podcast and this is a podcast today that I just want to make a little
introduction about the setting we are in right now.


I'm doing this podcast with a black male therapist friend and this is part 1 of 2 to discuss race in
America this is during the coronavirus in 2020 and there was another police shooting of a black
man George Floyd that erupted into social unrest in even riots and most of the protests were
peaceful this conversation

I'm having with Jemal Knowles is in June of 2020 while many things
are changing all Americans for quarantine tour homes are cities or states are shut down need to
wear a mask and people complaining about it or not following rules. Social unrest and protests.
I wanted to have this conversation about anxiety and racial issues and how to have a
conversation around racism.

That everybody can treat everybody fairly and respectfully.
Laws may be needed but we cannot just expect the government to insist we are responsible
citizens we are responsible for each other. We are brother and sister Americans we are
responsible for our own actions or behaviors in each other it is time to have the conversation
between white Americans we are all in this together ask listen to each other from our hearts open
our minds and listen to when can have the conversation for fairness for loving each other so let's
listen to being black in America.


Joanne Williams here today with Jemal Knowles. We are both therapists. At the same time
people may need counseling through these issues. This podcast is anxiety simplified we will be
offering some solutions, or what does have a conversation with our own personal experience
with that in mind.


Jemal Knowles speaks of the protest where he was arrested by failure to disperse. The problems
came at the end of the rally My daughter went her way and I went for the train home. There was
a skirmish and I went to see what was happening. I was arrested and spent 8 hours in jail.
Black lives matter too. I had this explanation and I don't remember this man's name because he said something about if you went to the doctor with your arm was broken the doctor said to you
but you got all these other appendages and they are alright, I want them to matter too like this
broken arm but I am here because my arm is broken.
You are not hearing me and that just brought something to my attention that we want to feel like
everything's okay or look at all of you you know your arm is broken in America with racial
issues.
I thought that was a good way to describe all life matter, but you know right now this arm is
broken and it needs your attention.
Robin Di angelo Book White Fragility helps us to look at why it is so hard for white people to
discuss racism. Reminds me very professional black man he was a professor I don’t know his
name. He said Police don’t see any difference in me because I'm a professional or an older black
man. I am still scene as a threat. I can’t help my neighbor to pick up packages on her porch for
being arrested for stealing them.

The story of Jackie Robinson he was not the best MLB baseball player. He was best because
the white folks decided that he would be the best 1 st black baseball player to play on white teams.
White privilege I don't think most white people in here I am going to do a generalization but we
have a clue or really can recognize that we have that we don't even have to think about such
things like asking a black man neighbor to pick up packages off my porch.
Unfortunately it wasn't ADOS American descendants of Slaves I don't think I've ever heard
anybody find it like that why do I need to call you you know I don't know it is it's very odd but
you bringing up something that I never thought of in this way and I think that's really important
point is an educational piece and it sounds like you a question do you think stop other even
maybe black people that do come here you know in some other way I wonder if they also get that
same are they think about it somebody that is descendants that would make you think they even
consider that what's the process in nature who makes a difference 300 years of building this
country imagine before World War 1 or World War II US. Civil War black people I said that
because with exception of Vietnam War Iraq have also been fighting for their country Joe Louis
all of these situations, I don't know what was that the black no cost of the danger.
We're talking a different level that you're talking about. The Karens’ calling the Police on a
black man in Central Park, they can be arrested for making a false statement. There already has
to be a law for making a false statement saying lies of what this person would do it but it might
have been in her head she actually thought that black man who was asking her to put her dog on
a leash was going to attack her.
Check your heart rate right now. I don't like it either but it was like listen engaged in
conversation let's speak to anxiety with this then because I cannot imagine this not creating
anxiety this creates living as a black man. Yeah it's anxiety, form PTSD. I don't have my car
registered everything and if I see police in the back of me, that's it we're on you I mean it sounds
like you have had anxiety does you know a lot of times because we have these catastrophic for
PTSD can be certainly or panic attack and never ending Loop up where we thought that really
can be wearing on you, always in the back of your mind.
I like the term strength in numbers there's something about support group about being with
people who know what it's like in there so yes we're safe, Someone understands. Suppose that
black American descendants of slavery that really spoke to me because as I got to know about
the different kinds of the moderators and people who joined those groups, they shared a lot of
the similar things about the anxiety of trying to explain over and over again for braces were for
whatever it was understood what you been thoughts are as a black person as an American
descendants of slavery. Very comforting to the point because I knew every Wednesday that
spoke to me, that spoke to the things I've been dealing with my life to reduce anxiety so I can
focus on other things in my life like my relationships and work. I want more resources to help
my anxiety significantly. As the coronavirus is kind of gone across the country and affected
difference day differently and even if New York was one of the hardest-hit they were in anxiety
and depression affect where Mississippi was number one with 50% now they're showing of
having anxiety and or depression when something Rises.

I'm going to say that there's already a high level of anxiety and depression in the population in
Mississippi and you know they did talk about economic resources but now we throw in a couple
more issues on my opinion and a tsunami you have any thoughts or things we can say to people
who are feeling is layers and layers and can you think of anything else we can actually say to
some of the groups that are feeling this whole all these in layers hitting them right now the
chickens coming home to roost.
What goes around, coming back around and so think about it if I am at same person and I feel
that money has not been met anyway and now we have this color coming through going to
happen number one why the hell would I do that to somebody who left in the first place why
would I trust the president and number two what's happening now is that the same people I want
to see now is a lot of white people now do the same kind of pinched in other words damn I was
just going down to Big Time hey buddy what's up?
I'm starting to see the picture of me and my family and well that sounds like the across the
railroad tracks call us again coming around comes around however, I think there is a similarity
on whites now on the past 300 years a little taste of a job little taste of kind of feeling a little taste
Eddie Murphy and Dan Aykroyd where they switch and things could happen when you have
other person experience send a really kind of weird looking things.
I do wish for that change and believe Mother Nature is kind of putting her thumb on us right now
and say and listen up and this also might bring like you're saying bring all of us a little closer I
think we're going deeper in our understanding I think we got more I think a lot of us are kind of
experience having the time maybe I can see baby what how others I've treated even or that I have
had similar experiences are all the same similar experiences but we do have some big differences
at the same time that I have some white privilege as a white person as a privileges no fault of my
own but I have as a White Person period.
In equities as a person of color, as a white has build equity, blacks have been trying to survive.
This was a study of all races and if your income was under $20,000 take two steps back and it's
pure white males black Hispanic What's brother in the back that is the key was talking about
income in equity you know and a lot of others and it's a big class really a lot of people have just
been trying to survive and it's that same how it is not the right but to have an equal chance at
things when one's just building equity and then given you know and that 1% were many of the
others are just surviving got their money's worth.
No argument that black people have been in the same work and pennies for their labor so how
the hell do you expect to stay on the same level when your ability to read rights learn the
intricacies of the Green District in Tulsa Oklahoma business of blacks were burned down, you
never knew about the Oklahoma burn down you know Oklahoma is telling these things and I'm
talking about him we're not hearing that we're not allowed in a sense.
I would like to do is I would like to stop for now and I think I would like to continue this
conversation in part 2. I'm going to take a little break then we will actually have part 2 in my
next podcast but for this one we're just going to say I thank you and I'll kind of make a break
here and In podcast number 2 we are going to continue this conversation on being black in
America and racism and how exhausting it is to constantly worrying about how will hurt me or

my family. we will continue the our conversation but I will have it in our next podcast so for it in
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