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Podcast 53: Empower Women Leaders with Resiliency and Grit to Bounce Forward into New Economy part 2 with Pattie Grimm

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Joanne Interviews Pattie Grimm who has a bestselling book Quiet Women Never Changed History – Be Strong, Stand Up and Stand Out.  Her story of the grit needed to set her pathway as a women leader in top tier companies.  Now her mission is to inspire other women to go beyond fear or anxiety.


See Part one Podcast # 52 we discussed how to create a vision to keep the focus to move into a Leadership career uses her strengths with heart.

In part 2 she inspires women to channel their inner Grit and Resiliency to bounce forward from the global Pandemic creating unique opportunities as the labor market needs more women.

5 steps to be an empowered leader and especially on creating your own vision now in part 2 we discussed more what it is going to take for women to want to get back in the workplace and thrive

Pattie is offering a Free Personal Vision Guide – PDF at pattiegrimm@live.com 

Also A Special offer – Get her bestselling book Quiet Women Never Changed History – Be Strong, Stand Up and Stand Out – “Let’s Go Kick Some Glass” for only $10.00 including over $200.00 in free training bonuses and free US S & H.  Go to www.womenkickingglass.com/book

This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.

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Podcast 52: Empower Women Leaders with Resiliency and Grit to Bounce Forward into New Economy

Part 2 with Pattie Grimm

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Inspired Women Channel Inner Vision

Joanne Interviews Pattie Grimm who has a bestselling book Quiet Women Never Changed History – Be Strong, Stand Up and Stand Out.  Her story of the grit needed to set her pathway as a women leader in top tier companies.  Now her mission is to inspire other women to go beyond fear or anxiety.

See Part one Podcast # 52 we discussed how to create a vision to keep the focus to move into a Leadership career uses her strengths with heart.

In part 2 she inspires women to channel their inner Grit and Resiliency to bounce forward from the global Pandemic creating unique opportunities as the labor market needs more women.

5 steps to be an empowered leader and especially on creating your own vision now in part 2 we discussed more what it is going to take for women to want to get back in the workplace and thrive

Pattie is offering a Free Personal Vision Guide – PDF at pattiegrimm@live.com 

Also A Special offer – Get her bestselling book Quiet Women Never Changed History – Be Strong, Stand Up and Stand Out – “Let’s Go Kick Some Glass” for only $10.00 including over $200.00 in free training bonuses and free US S & H.  Go to www.womenkickingglass.com/book

This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.

Videos of Podcasts at AnxietySimplified.net  For an emotional support animal or a Psychiatric Service Dog to go everywhere with you Esapros.com

 

Podcast 38: How to Groom a Psychopath

Monsters can be created, A cautionary Tale for Parent

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How to create a Psychopath- Never Say NO to them, or set any boundaries on them that is the simple answer.

What is a psychopath or a narcissistic and how can we protect ourselves from them

Treatment options Question of the day is: Can a Psychopath be treated?

This is a cautionary tale for parents and society why boundaries and saying no is so important for a functioning society.

As a Mental 30-year Mental Health Provider, I have dealt with all kinds of people and family dynamics.  I would usually see this family when things are so out of control that there is no way of helping them, because the child is in charge and the parents and siblings are being held hostage to the behaviors. This is an of an out-of-control child or young adult, without any of the family members, having the skills or having built in the skills, to say no or set appropriate boundaries as a young child and this young adult has become dangerous or revengeful and then the police or someone with more authority has to be brought in.  

And unfortunately, the parents are blaming the kid, usually, instead of taking the responsibility of what was needed to happen to prevent this.  And this is how generations can perpetual anti-social behaviors, because no one learned appropriate social skills.

Boundaries of saying no, are meant to be learned at developmental milestones of behavior that start to be learned at age 2.  when children start to understand that they are separate from their parents and they test the boundaries. The “terrible twos” as you may here them is the development stage of hearing no, and the parents being together and consistent with the child until they understand this is as far as the child can go safely. 

Saying no is showing that you care enough to take the time to teach your child what it is to give and take in a relationship and know that is love.  Then again in teenage years they go through this again and hopefully, they learned at the 2 year old level and the teens will be much easier then.

I see narcissism or anti-social behaviors as not having learned, the key word here is NO, or learned, to be empathic to others.

These are the qualities of both a narcissist and a Psychopath we call anti-social personality as the clinical diagnosis not psychopath. There are certain traits associated with ASPD that you can watch for if you are in a relationship with or a boss or in your child.

Some of the more common signs of anti-social Personality DO include:

  • socially irresponsible behavior ( not having learned what responsible behavior is)
  • disregarding or violating the rights of others ( no one showing them what is a personal boundary and boundaries of others)
  • inability to distinguish between right and wrong (learning the word no)
  • difficulty with showing remorse or empathy ( learning having to care about another human or animal)
  • tendency to lie often (they have figure out how to get their needs met by manipulation)
  • manipulating and hurting others ( it works and gets the results they want and no on stops them)
  • recurring problems with the law ( this becomes the big no, our court and law enforcement)
  • general disregard towards safety and responsibility ( no one cares for me, why should I care about them or myself, truly they are hurt little children that are grown up now and left to their own devices to survive in an uncaring world)

Where if you combine these symptoms with narcissist- characterized by:

  • an inflated sense of importance
  • a deep need for excessive attention and admiration
  • lack of empathy for others
  • often having troubled relationships
  • preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love (Corporate Ceo)
  • belief they’re special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions. (Politicians)
  • need for excessive admiration (Tv stars)
  • sense of entitlement
  • interpersonally exploitative behavior
  • envy of others or a belief that others are envious of them
  • demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes

What it boils down to, says licensed therapist  Rebecca Weiler, LMHC is selfishness at the (usually extreme) expense of others, plus the inability to consider others’ feelings at all. Again no one teaching them what is appropriate behaviors or caring about others, because no one cared about me. Or no one setting boundaries.

NPD, like most mental health or personality disorders, isn’t black and white. “Narcissism falls on a spectrum,” explains Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist Dr. Fran Walfish, author of “The Self-Aware Parent.”  With just a few symptoms presented to the full blown all-encompassing destructive symptoms.

But make no mistake, they can be dangerous, that charming way of seducing you, telling you what you want to hear and one therapist call it ‘love bombing’ you, can change quickly, if their fragile sense of themselves is hurt.   They can seek revenge and be dangerous in a relationship.   As we often see in domestic violence.   

Seek help if you are ever feeling threaten by a person you are in a relationship with, leaving can be the most dangerous time, because that narcissists may feel that you have bruised their inflated sense of importance or they feel abandoned and have no healthy coping skills to work with it out themselves, because again they never learned them from their initial family. And do look for vulnerable people to control. Once you aren’t that they usually will seek to find someone else to control or see you as an object of their, they are losing.

In January 2021 in a FB live after the insurrection on Jan. 6th at the Capital I did a FB live about these tendencies and what to watch out for.  

I believe that is what we saw these same behaviors in White supremacy at the capital.  No one was saying NO to them and a past president was supportive their abusive behaviors, in my opinion. People are intimidated by their power and control.  Just like the KKK in the south.

This is continuing right now with barbed wire around our National Capital building.  

Or in corporate American where one study found that 20 % of American CEO had Psychopathic tendencies. They seek Power and control and learned how to manipulate people and things to bend to their needs.  

What brought this up for me to write about was that I was watching some Muscovy ducks, who have multiply colored ducks the size of turkey, that have made our yard their home. A new adolescent duck flew in and tried to take dominance over the older well-established duck, that had dominance over a female duck.  The new adolescent duck come to establish his dominance,

They literally fought for 15-20 minutes on land and on water to subjugate one of them and the established older duck won. He said one no, I am the boss and this is my girl, not yours. He did remain dominant.

This young stud give in and they are all living together, after the setting of boundaries.  So nature is the example of this also.

It also made me start to even think about racism and slavery, where it started how it started, how its continued. It's about not ever being able to say no  and building a system that does say no to someone who is trying to exert their rights or be independent if they are not the right color to the ones in power, being subjugated by ones in power, or a system that is set up to subjugate and say no.  

I started to think about slaves plucked out of their own environment their home environment. Put a chains, treated like sub humans, put in, hold of a ship and thrown scraps of food and sold as things.

Demoralized completely subjugated taken out of their home away from family as a way to break them as a way to say the biggest No ever.

Bring them to a new environment you've never experienced, thrown into a new way of life, that your head must be continuing to spin, put in a system that supports that No against you.

You cannot leave, you cannot be free. you cannot exert any rights. Cannot vote,  

A system built on fear of physical violence to you.  Having a system of No for most to be subjugated for the few benefits.

What does this system sound like it is based on?  Psychopathology and narcissism to the nth degree. 

A system that is still in place today, that is showing itself to us all, but, has been for most people of color forever. 

Right now, there are 100 legislative bills that are before state governments to restrict or make it harder for minorities to vote, to never have a voice.  Can we say NO to them? Yes we can with our votes.

Is it time for this subjugation system to stop? 

According to Mary Trump, the niece of Donald Trump, wrote a book about it. The title is ‘To much and Never Enough’. Just the title explains it. No one ever said no to him and he has terrorized his family and ours.

As a Psychologist that is what she is alluding to in the Trump family that created the sociopath that we just spent the last 4 years having to deal with as a country. No one said no to him.

So, what can we do for our children or learn from this? In my counseling practice, what I witnessed was that in either direction can produce a Narcissist or a psychopath, Either, overindulging a child and never setting boundaries, or never saying no and just giving in to them and giving them anything they want, or being neglectful or emotional abandoning them or never being emotional available to them.

Without anyone loving them enough to teach them what is appropriate boundaries in relationships or what does it mean to care for another person can lead to both narcissism and anti-social personality or the creation of a psychopath.

We need to learn how to set boundaries or what is appropriate social behaviors and how to say no and mean it without abuse or threats. To be consist and follow thru on what you say and stick to it for the good of the child and family.  Seek help early from a professional, do not wait, if you school or neighbors, tell you your child is a bully.

More men than women have this diagnosis.

  • Technically, to receive an ASPD diagnosis, you have to be 18 years of age. But some people will show signs of conduct disorder, which may be an early indicator of ASPD, as early as age 11.
  • It’s a chronic condition that seems to improve with age.
  • Mortality rates are higher in people with ASPD because of their behavior.

However, Dr. Masand, clinical director or Healthy ways, counseling,  says a true ASPD diagnoses is not made until the age of 18. “For most people, the worst of the behavior occurs in the late teen years throughout the twenties,” he explains.

It will be apparent generally in grade school, the bully on the playground.

To get a proper diagnosis, a mental health professional will conduct a full mental health profile.

The mental health professional will also look at medical history. This full evaluation is a critical step since ASPD tends to show comorbidity with other mental health and addictive disorders.

Since a true ASPD diagnosis is typically delayed until the age of 18, adolescents and teens that present with similar symptoms younger with behaviors  for conduct disorder (CD) or oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).

Of the two behavior disorders, CD is more severe than ODD. When determining if a child has ODDTrusted Source, clinicians will look at how they act around people they know.

Typically, someone with ODD is more likely to act oppositional or defiant around family members, teachers, or a healthcare provider. If an adolescent or teen is showing an ongoing pattern of aggression toward others and they regularly make choices that are in opposition of the rules and social norms at home, school, or with peers, a clinician may decide to get help quickly.  Especially, if a child is hurting animals or setting fires.  

Like the diagnostic process, treating someone with psychopathic traits that fall under the ASPD diagnosis can be difficult. Typically, a healthcare provider will use a combination of psychotherapy (talk therapy) and medication.

However, personality disorders cannot be treated with medication alone. Psychotherapy can help the person understand their diagnosis and how it impacts their life and their relationships with others. A therapist will also work to develop strategies that decrease the severity of the symptoms.

If medication is part of the treatment plan, a doctor might prescribe medications that treat other metal health conditions such as anxiety, depression, or symptoms of aggression.

But that's why and that's how and I say this as a cautionary tale to mothers, fathers, that NO is an important boundary. No is supposed to be used, to understand right from wrong. No is a very powerful word that needs to be used in an appropriate way to say it's not okay to do this, who has stand up, as a boundary, so that they understand how to work within social norms to the betterment of the whole, not of the individual person, or family.

As Americans, I think we have a lot to learn about the whole instead of the individual.  To include and be respectful of all people instead of subjugating certain parts of our society.

Practice using the word No with Love and with the intention of showing love. Say it without any emotion in it.  Just a simple boundary. With a simple non emotional explanation. If you need help please reach out. For all of our sakes.

This is by no means a replacement for therapy of any medical attention if you need it.  Always reach out and take care of yourself or if you are feeling like you want to hurt yourself, there is always someone standing by at 1800-273-8255 or call 911.

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Podcast 23: 8 Ways to Master Patience on Thanksgiving

Patience and Resilience for Thanksgiving with or without Family

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In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW discusses the Nature of Mastering Patience, especially with Thanksgiving that might be without family at this Holiday.

Summary of today Podcast: Some things that we can do this Thanksgiving without our families getting together as we usually do. Resiliency, nurturing Patience are keys and doing some things that relieve stress.

  1. How we handle impatience comes with a high price if we don’t learn how.
  2. Are you afraid of being bored? 
  3. Patience is a choice-
  4. Turn your impatience to Good Use 

Question for today is? How can I change my impatience to being more patient?

Dr. Amad Massud from the Mayo Clinic Reports on CBS Sunday Morning on 10/25/20 says It is important to Master our Impatience for multiple reasons.

In a study it was found we are afraid of being bored so much so that 70% of participants in the study would rather receive an electric shock than be bored.

The opposite of Patience is not Impatience, it is anxiety, Illness, injury, addiction, Loneliness, and death. These are some of the high prices we pay for Impatience.  You may say that this is extreme?  Impatience creates anxiety as we wait. Loneliness with Covid isolation, because we want to get out of our houses more, it can cause Injury because of impulsiveness, road rage,  increased addiction from the stress of changes from Covid and fears of succumbing to it, increase in deaths from explosive angry, that then can Increase heart attacks by 2-8 fold for the next few hours.  This is serious.  Have you noticed how your body feels after you get really angry?  I have felt my temples pulsing and a surge of cortisol and adrenaline that almost feels like I have to “come down” from it.  I am an impatient person, so I am really practicing these things, because I didn’t realize the damage this can do.

Impatience evil twin is stress. The stress of everyday life and your reaction to what happens to you in your everyday routine can increase blood pressure and changes to your Heart Rate. Think about waiting for a plane to come in, or not knowing what is happening to some one, impatience and stress have negative effects on our emotions and our physical body.  Even For several hours after the call.

Impatience can have an effect even on our chromosomes. At the end of chromosomes are telomeres. From blood samples shows that Stress makes the telomeres smaller.  Which when we have shorter or smaller Telomeres it shows aging of the chromosomes from stress.  One thing that impatience does is increasing aging.

There are things that you can do to lower your impatience and stress. So lets talk about those:

Not having control over things on the outside can increase stress and impatience.  But, we can Choose to be patient. Helping yourself live longer, happier, look younger and helping your family also live happier life by choosing to look at ways to increase your patience.  Your life may depend on it.

Maybe your thanksgiving family gathering is at your sister’s house with her weird husband or “crazy uncle” Ed who drinks to much.  Waiting for the food to be ready, can’t watch football in your favorite room and chair, because company is using it.  Can you feel the impatience and gritting of the teeth starting and the tightening of your sphincter?  You are just trying to get through the day.

This is a test of your ability to have patience and cope when your routine messed up, can’t have your favorite chair or the of your favorite team to watch that calms you down. Well, have a few drinks as you way to cope. Which lowers your inhibitions, and you say something that is hurt, that mays everyone uncomfortable.

Or worse, you can’t go to the traditional Thanksgiving, because of Covid. You are left alone or just you and your SO and you both just sink into your own corners and are sad and lonely.

1.How about make a coping plan before the day for what you can do?

  • Create a new tradition. Something you want to do or some food that you never have because it isn’t “traditional”.  Create Something to look forward to.

How does being ungrateful and stubborn about tradition ever Bring anything good things to the Table?

  • Plan or think though what you CAN do. Take a drive to a scenic place.  Take a brisk walk in the woods with the dog.  Sit in nature for a while.
  • What would feel exciting to you. Make it happen. Think about it and plan it.
  • Enjoy doing something together with your SO that make you laugh, a new game or cooking a new recipe, just to smile and laugh, no pressure.
  • Make something romantic and soothing with music or dancing. Karaoke
  • Invite someone who makes you feel good when they are there.
  • “If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces."
    ― Shane Koyczan
  1. Resiliency can fire up your body. You don’t need to have fist fights with the corona virus, you can empower the billions of immune cells to fight with this virus and when you are resilient your immune cells are stronger in waging that war for you.
  2. Turn on your impatience to good use. If you want to. You can make a choice too. Make a decision to make yourself more relevant by learning and training ourselves about patience. Rise above impatience. Do this for yourself and your family. You will all be better off for it. Not with “white knuckles” to get through it truly find 1 thing you really can enjoy and make that bigger and fulfilling.
  3. Think about the harm that impatient does to your body. Your Increased Blood pressure and increased Heart rate and even your stress hormones. And resiliency training can lower your Blood pressure and Heart rate and cortisol level and boost you mood dramatically.

5.What is resiliency training? According to the Mayo clinic, “Resilience is your ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, adversity, trauma or tragedy. If you have a resilient disposition, you are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological wellness in the face of life's challenges.

If you're less resilient, you're more likely to dwell on problems, feel overwhelmed, use unhealthy coping tactics to handle stress, and develop anxiety and depression.

You can develop resilience by learning to train your attention on more-positive aspects of your life. You use purposeful, trained attention to decrease negative thoughts in your mind and bring greater focus on the most meaningful aspect of an experience. It is being flexible and thoughtful to the complete experience not just what you don’t like

Resilience training focuses on four areas, including emotional, cognitive and mental, physical, and spiritual resilience. Training in these areas can improve your resiliency, enhance your quality of life, and decrease your stress and anxiety by teaching you to view life's inevitable challenges as opportunities.”

  1. There is a Japanese practice called Forest Bathing, being in the Forest allows us to be lost in the moment, where nothing exists. You can walk in a park. We respond to Nature. If you can be in Nature for just 15 minutes, it can help you master resiliency. Science is clear that just 15 minutes of walking in green space or a park lowers BP, HR and stress hormones.
  2. Even Virtually in meditation can work as well.
  3. Slowing down your life, will help for you to notice more that is around you. Give you a chance to enjoy more and appreciate what nature give us.

Rise above impatience, during this pandemic even without family for the Holiday and find ways to include family  on Zoom,  have them set a place for you anyways to be thought about and missed and have some fun with family in other ways.

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Podcast 5: Make time for your meditation

Introduction to anxiety simplified

5-minute Meditation to Have Your time.


Sit comfortably relax this is Your time.
Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth 4 time slowly to get above your thoughts.
Work toward the exhale being longer than inhale, allow your belly to rise as you breathe in, it will help to
oxygenate the brain.

Best technique for Anxiety and for Panic Attacks.

Listen to nature, enjoy the quiet.
Breath into the right side of your brain. It will calm the thinking left side. Do this several times, as you feel the left brain quieting your thinking.

Notice the quieting of your mind. Allow the thoughts to take a break.
Visualize your thoughts being put in a basket and sliding away to have your time. Breath and Listen to the sounds of Nature, grounding you. Feel like you’re are in the Forest.  Smell the Pine, feel in the pulling of the earth. Or on the beach on the warm sand and hot sun. or floating on a floaty feeling the relaxation coming over you. Feel relaxation dripping off your toes and let the thoughts go
into the basket and Let go Time of BE-ing, Listen and go within- what do you hear.

Can you hear the angels singing, hear their beautiful voices, of if you hear children voices, or duties calling say 5 minutes? This Is your time, call yourself back to you.

Go into your heart to focus on your heart. Be grateful. Feel pleased or satisfied in your life. Fell the gratefulness. Enjoy your time-As we come back. Notice how the world looks a l little brighter more loving. Send that love and grateful ness out into the work with your Smile. Come back anytime to Your Time.

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Podcast 3: Ways to Deal with Anxiety and Panic Attacks

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3 Ways to deal with Anxiety and Panic Attacks -Part 1 

Subtitle: Effects of dealing with Anxiety, What causes severe anxiety? 

In this episode Joanne Williams, LCSW explains the:

  • Definition of Severe Anxiety and Panic Attacks
  • Public Speaking is #1 Anxiety
  • Anxiety as a Disorder 
  • Treatment Options with Cognitive Behavioral Treatment 
  • Questions: How do you know if someone has anxiety? 
  • Washington Post Article on the Shadow Pandemic from Corona Virus 
  • 5 minutes Relief Now guided meditation at the end of narrative or podcast.

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Introduction to Anxiety Simplified With Joanne Williams, LCSW

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In this episode: Joanne Williams, LCSW a 30 yrs. Veteran Licensed Mental Health Therapist shares her Simplified Anxiety Solutions from her vast experience with treating Post Traumatic Stress Survivors PTSD interfering anxiety.
● Ways of Dealing with Anxiety.  Including Anxiety Relief and Ways to Cope with Anxiety.
● Why anxiety is a helpful guide.
● Explanation of why we have anxiety.
● Key is your thoughts to manage your anxiety.
● The “What ifs": How our Catastrophic thinking is affecting and activating the anxiety.
● Increase your awareness of your thoughts is one way to counteract the old thought habit of anxiety as a treatment for anxiety or causes of anxiety.  

5 minute calming meditation at the end of the podcast.

This week’s question is:
Question: How to deal with road rage or someone that is anxious in the line at the supermarket? 

Next podcast episode: A must listen to understand how to Stop or Cure for Panic attacks or not.

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